Jan Kaa has gathered in this book much of his knowledge and years of experience as a psychologist, authority on children, and former leader of the divorce division at the Center for Family Development. The book gives an overview of what a divorce influences, and what you should try to avoid if you want to do what's best for yourself and your children.

It's important to take care of yourself, in order to be a good parent for your children and work together with your co-parent. It's not always easy. But this book gives good advice for how to do so – without falling to pieces.

An important point the book makes is that things don't have to be perfect; the children will be okay. By assuming the role of parent, you're doing well enough.